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172: Sex, Stress, and Burnout. Understanding it All with Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

We are living in times of unprecedented stress. Even spending increased time with family members can bring added stress. Our desire is to bring you reliable information and education that meet you where you are in these days of social distancing due to coronavirus fears.

 Emily Nagoski is a sex educator and the author of Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex LIfe and Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle. Her job is to travel all over the world, training therapists, medical professionals, college students, and the general public about the science of women’s sexual wellbeing.

Show Highlights:

  • The dual control model of how your brain perceives and processes sex
  • Why you might feel judgment about your sexual response, which “hits the brakes”–not the accelerator
  • Why the magical six-week timeline doesn’t work for most women
  • How your brain responds to the physical changes that come with giving birth
  • The best perspective on the six-week timeline
  • Steps to take in the chaos:
    • Identify what is causing you to hit the brakes
    • Have non-sexual sharing and touching
  • Why Emily doesn’t use the term “libido”
  • Why sexual desire differential is the #1 reason people seek sex therapy
  • The secrets of sexuality in long-term relationships
  • Why desire does NOT come first
  • Why you need to identify the sex you want—and don’t want
  • Why “pleasure is the measure” of your sexual wellbeing
  • Why Emily reads her own audiobook versions
  • Creating the ultimate sex-positive context through kindness and compassion
  • The difference in confidence and joy

Resources:

Emily Nagoski

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski

 Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski